Niyabesaba Na! traditional beaded stick


Short beaded stick R150 long one R250
Today's article is inspired by a book I recently read, "These things really do happen to me" by a South African author and manager at Heineken South Africa, Khaya Dlanga.
in this book, Khaya Dlanga explains why Xhosa men and boys carried sticks
The writer - a Xhosa man who spent the early years of his life leaving in rural village in the Eastern Cape- gives an explanation on why his grandfather, Alfred Kaiser Boyce made sure boy or man carried stick, I quote from page 30 of the book, " A stick was a sign of manliness. You could use it to fend off attacks and troublesome dogs. You were never deterred from going where you supposed to, because you were always armed".
walking out of CCMA 23 September 2018
Recently, I attended a court case against my former employer. I took the fight very seriously, so serious that as a build up to the date I would do my primary war cry, Niyabesaba Na! over and over to build confidence and to assure myself I am doing the right thing, not only for myself but for my son as well. With the hope that he will know and  maybe my story will inspire him not to be a coward.


On the day before the seating, I had a chat with God I even called the spirit of  my mother, great grandmother, grandmother to be with me.
 To show I was not  backing  down in this fight. I carried my beaded stick with, a symbol that I am ready to attack and fend off any troublesome dog that might come my way.
 I wanted to win so bad but I was also mindful that the company might win. But I kept going, as evidence from the inboxes, and messages I got from colleagues, former colleagues other people who are still undergoing bullying at work. I was the face and the voice of what they couldn't, cant, wont and would never stand up against this. Instead they would rather suffer in silence and carry on with life as if nothing has happened while the action of their perpetrator chows every confidence they had at work.
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